"Respond intelligently even to unintelligent treatment." ~ Lao Tzu
When there is no pause between an experience and our reaction, it seems as if our feelings are coming from our experiences. If you put the burden of your feelings on someone else, it precludes the recognition that you are the source of your emotions.
It also means you will continually be at the mercy of other people. This is not a peaceful nor sane position to be in.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t hold someone accountable for their actions but on the level of feeling it is always our own responsibility to abide from that place of inner acceptance and forgiveness for whatever reality may be at that moment.
"How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours." ~ Wayne Dyer
Don’t be caught in the karmic game of unconsciousness, of action and mindless reaction. Rediscover your own stillness in the face of changeful happenings and you will find a peace that is indifferent to treatment.
|—||Trungpa Rinpoche (via lazyyogi)|
|—||Jack Kornfield (via lazyyogi)|
"Reality is not what it seems to be, nor is it otherwise." ~ A Tibetan Buddhist Teaching
So, what terror?
"Whenever I think about or hear things"—That is the problem. You are turning thoughts and hearsay into a reality that doesn’t actually exist for you. There is real terror in the lives of many people. How does you being terrified of their terror help anyone?
Any terrible thoughts you have and things you hear about the world can be equally matched by amazing and beautiful things and thoughts. Therefore, how much can you really trust these thoughts and feelings to determine reality?
You are already worried about bringing a child into this world and imagining the bad things that could happen! You’re suffering from an imagined future that doesn’t exist.
The essential reason why all these feelings and perceptions seem insurmountable is because they aren’t happening for you Now. They are imaginations. And you can’t do anything to overcome an imagination because it doesn’t exist. All you can do is see the imagination as imagination and let it go. It is only when something is happening now that you can actually do something about it.
You cannot fix a world that you fear. You cannot save anyone until you yourself are beyond the need for saving. By all means, help in whatever way inspires you. But don’t live in the imagination you have of the world. You cannot wait for the world to be at peace before finding your own. It is by being in touch with the peace you are within that you can bring it into the lives of those who need it.
Find fearlessness through compassion and meditation. A book that will certainly have an impact on you is The Places That Scare You by Pema Chodron.
They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know that if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now. Their happiness cannot be taken by the other, because it is not given by the other.
|—||Osho (via lazyyogi)|
"I learnt a lot from her. She’s an amazing musician, everything I go through or say is filtered through her eyes and vision." - Selena Gomez
"Sometimes you get sucked into a vacuum of thinking that the world is watching you and waiting for you to mess up and I can’t live like that. I want to have fun. You can’t really have fun if you think everyone is waiting for the trip and fall”